February 14, 2012

Hi there. It’s Valentine’s Day 2012. So happy v-day! I say (or write) that not in my usual sarcastic tone. I actually like Valentine’s Day. Sure, it’s a Hallmark holiday, but I enjoy what the holiday stands for. And that is love. Even if I’m not “in love” with someone, I love the idea of love. Love makes the world go round people. Embrace it.

To illustrate how much I love love, I will mention that I considered at one point to tattoo the Kanji symbol for love on my foot, until my Asian friends in the know told me that it was too common and tacky.

But I still love the symbol. I decided that if I do get a tattoo, and I went with a Kanji symbol, I’d go with the word “truth,” because truth to me can mean a number of things, including love. So I went a bit deeper than the everyday person who has the Kanji symbol for love tattooed on their foot. Go big or go home.

But I digress. My point is – love. Celebrate it – whether it be love for your significant other, your hobbies, your family, your friends, your job – just love it. Appreciate what’s in your life, even if you are going through a difficult time. Things will get better. And love what you do, where you go, what you see. It makes life more enjoyable.

Love you all (well, most of you). ūüėõ




May 18, 2011

All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another. – Anatole France

I’ve been at my current job for almost 3.5 years now. That’s a standard amount of time before a next move. Friday is my last day. The position I’m moving to is a great opportunity, pretty much exactly what I want to be doing. So why am I getting so sad as my end date nears? Having said goodbye to a few people already, I can’t help but want to cry each time I do. It’s not like I’ll never see these people again. But even if I still work with them, it will never be in the same capacity. It will not be the same.

Why is changing so hard, even if the change is for the best? I was cleaning out my cube today, cabbing home with all my items while looking longingly at the city. I will miss everyone, I’ll miss my work, I’ll miss working in the city, and I’ll even miss my bosses and the daily greetings from the security guards. So while many people leave their jobs because they aren’t happy, that isn’t why I am leaving. Sure, certain things weren’t ideal, but I love the work that I do and most of the people I work with. It’s just that an even better opportunity presented itself that was tough to pass up. Even if it requires change.

If you aren’t willing to change and step out of your comfort zone, you aren’t willing to grow. ¬†And if you don’t grow, you aren’t really living. ¬†With that, I’m trying to make myself feel better. Because even though I am moving on to a great opportunity, it is scary. It is unknown. It is difficult to say goodbye. But in the long run it will be for the best, even if it means leaving all that I’ve known for the past three years. My daily routine will change. My circle of friends might change. While it’s sad to say goodbye, I must embrace it. Because the only thing constant in life is change.


May 24, 2010

Yikes guys, it’s been two weeks since I’ve posted. I think I am going to have to make this a weekly blog, if anything. Just can’t keep up as a I used to.

So, what has brought me back, you may ask? LOST.

Last night was the LOST finale, and honestly, I am almost rendered speechless at how amazing this show was and how the writers weaved everything to conclude with this amazing ending. Many are complaining that we are still left with questions unanswered. But really, that is the beauty of it. That is the beauty of the show. LOST was about life, death, good, evil, redemption, and to me – the meaning of life. In real life, we don’t have all the answers. Many things make no sense to us. So for the writers to end it as they did, with many of the sci-fi questions still unanswered; this was fine for me. What mattered most was the relationships developed, the bonds forged, the love created, and coming to peace with the fact that things may not turn out the way they thought they might in the end. It all comes down to this – love and happiness. Making the most of life and righting any wrongs so that you can move on to a better place. To me, that was what this show was about. And I am happy with the way it ended because it all came together for me in the end.

The amazing actors and actresses of LOST

WOW. I’m not sure how much more I need to say about this show. If you are a viewer, I think the finale spoke for itself. I watched the show with friends, and frankly almost wish that I hadn’t because I was crying like a baby for the last half hour. I walked home feeling as though something was “off,” as though there was now a void created in my life, as if I had just gone through a horrible breakup. Is it really over? Yes, it is. But after thinking about it more, I have come to peace with that fact. While yes, it is sad that the show is over, like any breakup, I realize that I am happy to have gone through the experience. I have learned so much; it wasn’t all for nothing. As crazy as it may seem, my life has been enhanced by a TV show. Yes, a TV show. I didn’t think this was humanly possible. The writers did an incredible job with this one.

Before I take off, I’d just like to add that my LOST experience has only been enhanced by reading the Filmfodder blog by Mac Slocum. His summaries combined with his sense of humor made this a great read every week post episode. Not only that, but an incredible amount of insight was gained by reading the comments (all 400 of them) on each post. I will really miss this as well.

On that note, it’s bon voyage for me for a while. I need to take a minute, sit back, and think about my life, where it is going, and what I want to accomplish. We only have so much time to do the things we want to do and make the most of our time here. Yes, I realized this before LOST, but it was only enhanced by this viewing experience. LOST was an incredibly moving show that had to come to an end, but it’s legacy lives on. Thanks to the writers for creating this masterpiece.

Until next time,



January 13, 2010

Some of you may know that during my senior year at UConn, I and eight other students traveled on a service trip to Haiti through the Diocese of Norwich for 11 days. During that time, we visited children’s orphanages, AIDS homes for the dying, hospitals in Port-au-Prince, and even took some children to the beach on a day trip. While I’m sure we made only an indent in attempting to provide companionship and solace to the people of Haiti, this trip changed my life.

The people of Haiti are unbelievably strong, loving, and generous considering the horrible economic conditions they are subjected to. It was amazing to me to see people so happy, yet have so little.¬†I came back to the US and broke down crying immediately upon arriving home, realizing how overwhelming the experience was and how much I have to be thankful for; how much I have, and in all actuality, don’t need.

Haiti is the poorest country in the western hemisphere. In Haiti, running water is a luxury. There is no running hot water. If a child had a blanket or even a bed to sleep on in the orphanage we visited, he was lucky. If he eats two meals a day consisting of bread and rice, he was lucky. The children we met were all starving, indicated by their bloated, distended stomachs. Here in the US, we take ordinary garbage collection for granted. Imagine walking off the plane upon arriving at the airport in Port-au-Prince, only to be overwhelmed by the smell of burning garbage. In Haiti, there is very little access to anti-retrovial medications to prevent the onset of AIDS and lifesaving malaria drugs, again things most of us have access to in the US. We are so incredibly lucky to live in the US and to have all that we have, yet every day, we take what we have for granted.

Haiti is not like the US, there is no disaster relief. The infrastucture was not built to withstand an earthquake of this magnitude, or any earthquake for this matter. The buildings and houses are built so poorly that they can barely withstand daily weather conditions, let alone a 7.0 magnitude earthquake. Amazingly, I was just watching CNN and someone from the Diocese of Norwich was being interviewed. Apparently Father Chuck, who was there ten years ago when we were in Haiti, is currently trapped in the house in Petionville that we stayed in. While in Haiti, we went to the Presidential Palace, which has since toppled to the ground, and even met the President himself. The main hospital in Port-au-Prince, one in which we visited, has since collapsed. Seeing pictures and hearing reports of what is going on in this country is unbelievable. I do not know how the country can possibly deal with this; but being the upbeat, positive people that they are, I know that they will prevail.

To hear that such a disastrous earthquake has shattered this country brings me to tears. These people do not deserve this; they have already been through enough. Just like with the terrorist attacks of 9/11, times like these make me question why God would allow something like this to happen. I am sincerely tempted to pick up and go back to Haiti right now to help these people. I have wanted to go back for some time, and this obviously is a time when they need our help more than ever. Please keep the Haitian people in your thoughts and prayers, and if there is anything you can do to help them out, whether it be a monetary donation or some other means, consider it. The people of Haiti would do it for you, if they could.

The Year in Review

December 30, 2009

Time flies when you’re having fun, and on that note, another year has passed us by. Here’s a quick summary of some of the important things that stood out to me in 2009:

  1. Inauguration – first black President of the United States inaugurated on January 20, 2009. This alone was historical. But what made it even more surreal was being in DC during this time and being a part of the celebration. I have never seen anything like that in my life and I feel incredibly lucky to have been a part of it all.
  2. Metro disasters of 2009 – this, on the other hand, is something I’d rather forget. No doubt everyone heard about the nine deaths in June on the red line. Apparently, the death toll for 2009 is now at 12. As recently as this past Sunday, another person was struck by a metro train. Will this madness ever end?
  3. Move to DC – I finally made the move in May. ¬†While I was initially pretty homesick for Arlington and do sometimes miss living in the Clarendon bubble, I can now say that DC has grown on me. I love the convenience, I love the diversity of the people, I love being able to walk everywhere. I officially love it. Really, what was I thinking living in Arlington for almost 5 years? My Clarendon days can be summarized in their entirety by the Arlington Rap. One of the few things Arlington has going for it are my friends and Goody’s. But, I still love you ATown.
  4. Michael Jackson’s death – sad.
  5. Tiger Woods – I’m so sick of this story that I choose not to elaborate on it, but figured I had to mention it here.
  6. UConn beats Notre Dame…in football – in case you live under a rock, UConn beat Notre Dame, in South Bend no less, on November 21, 2009. I love my UConn basketball, but you can’t beat a good football game, and this was a historic win. After only six years (is that right?) as a 1-A program, Huskies football is officially legit. Next year, we play Michigan..holla. And don’t forget to check us out in the Papa John’s Bowl this Saturday at 2pm. ¬†Unfortunately here I do have to mention the senseless killing of cornerback Jasper Howard. RIP
  7. DC Blizzard of ’09 – DC gets pelted with almost two feet of snow in December, bringing the city to a standstill. Even though the storm was on a Saturday, the feds closed the following Monday, which I really couldn’t complain about. Having a storm like this in December begs the question – what is in store for the rest of the winter?
  8. Sara becomes more domestic – by domestic, I mean I started to cook this past fall. A miracle in itself, I know. But I am actually enjoying being creative in the kitchen, when just this past summer, the most I did was make grilled cheese (with the cheese, if I was lucky) once every two months. Not bad if I do say so myself. Guess that’s what these cold winter months will do to you.
  9. I realized how lucky I am – most of you probably know that we had some illness in our family this past year, and we were successfully able to get through the tough times together. Unfortunately, I know of many others who were not as lucky. I am thankful that my family is now healthy and we have only emerged stronger from this year’s adversity. Tough times like these make you realize what is really important in life, and that is family and friends. Make the most of your time with them while you still have it. Love you guys.
  10. Health reform passes – I didn’t think this would actually happen this year, if ever in my lifetime, but it actually has. We only have to get through conference, and let the madness begin. After not being able to successfully pass reform since Medicare and Medicaid were created in 1965, it is pretty much a miracle.
  11. Ted Kennedy passes away Рwas shocked to see this on the news this past August morning. While we all knew he was afflicted with brain cancer, there was no warning that he would pass so suddenly. If there is a bright side to look at here, we passed health reform in his name and I think it fueled the fire.
  12. DC records lowest homicide rate in 40 years РThis year, only 138 deaths have been recorded due to homicide in the District. Fine, Arlington only had 2 this year (yes РTWO!!!! see Clarendon bubble). Despite 138 seeming high, it is 25% lower than last year. Compared to the 479 homicides in 1991, 138 is a walk in the park. Are you kidding me with 479?
  13. Still single – a friend once told me the old wive’s tale that if a girl wear’s red panties on New Years Eve, she will be proposed to within the year. I wore red panties on NYE last year, and as far as I can tell, am still single. But hey, while the lack of sex certainly sucks, I’d rather be single than in an unsatisfactory relationship or an unhappy marriage. Call me picky, but in my old age and with some extensive, excrutiatingly painful experience, I have finally determined what I am looking for in a man. Here’s to meeting him in 2010. Maybe I’ll test out some black panties this year.
  14. Drank too much – I know this is also hard to believe, but DC got the best of me again in 2009 and I partied entirely too much. Way more so than I would like to admit. ¬†I don’t know if it was a combination of boating, my delinquent friends, Dewey debauchery, or a combination of all of the above, but I plan to make 2010 a much slower drinking year, which is a good thing. And yes, I am still planning to do the Dew, don’t fret.
  15. Sara discovers blogging – last, but probably most importantly, I discovered blogging. While I’ve only been in the game for a few months now, boy, has it been a ride. Looking to go bigtime soon (i.e. publish web address on facebook). I even have randoms reading the thing, although I have no clue how they got a hold of it. Your readership and compliments on the blog keep me going – thanks for all the encouragement! This whole blogging thing is entirely too much fun.

That’s about all I’ve got for you now folks. 2009 has been a joy, but it’s time to move on to bigger and better things in 2010. Only time will tell what life has in store for us. Celebrate what you’ve accomplished in 2009, and think positively for 2010. Happy new year everyone!

the crowd at President Obama's Inauguration

our view of the Inauguration

random musings

December 10, 2009

I was just doing some facebook stalking when I came across a wonderful status line.  It read:

Never struggle to become relevant. ¬†You either are or you aren’t.

Such a simple statement, but oh so true. ¬†In many respects. ¬†It particularly struck me as relevant today, as me and a friend at work were dealing with some of the many kiss-ass overachievers in our office. Everyone wants a piece of the health reform pie, everyone wants to get their foot in the door in order to feel like they are a part of this big change that is about to take place. But unless you have something good to say, please don’t say anything at all. Don’t say something just to hear yourself talk and to get your identity out there. People will respect you for your ideas, but if you have to struggle to make a point, then maybe you shouldn’t be making it.

But really this statement can be applied to many settings. Relationships primarily. Let’s take my ex, for example. For years we tried to make it work, but there was always something holding him back. He always had one foot out the door; he just was never able to fully commit. Finally, after a few years, I started to accept that I could not change what he felt. I had no other choice. Would I continue to hope things would work out with him and try to work things out, when really I had no control over it? I could not make him fall in love with me. He either was or he wasn’t – and he wasn’t. I struggled for years to become relevant in his life (and obviously I was, just not to the level that I wanted to be). I kept thinking that maybe things would change and if I did a certain thing, maybe he would become what I wanted him to be. But, finally I realized that wasn’t going to happen. His feelings for me were not going to miraculously change, despite what I did or what I might have done. He wasn’t going to magically realize overnight that what he wanted (me!) was right in front of him. After years of hoping he would change, I had to let him go.

I’m not sure how I just went off on that tangent, but I think you get my point. Don’t try to be something you aren’t in order to get something you think that you want. Just be yourself. If it is meant to be, whatever “it” might be, then it will happen if it’s meant to happen. I am not suggesting that you shouldn’t work hard to attain the goals that you want to achieve. Quite the opposite. Instead, I don’t believe that you should have to struggle to achieve certain things. Just accept that it wasn’t meant to be and find something that is. It will save you a lot of stress and heartache.

Sara’s WOW

November 2, 2009

Hey guys – how was your weekend?¬† Halloween in DC was fun per usual, but I was just telling a co-worker that I must be getting old, as I would have preferred to be home giving¬†candy¬†to kids than out raging it up at a party.¬† Guess that’s what happens as you age.¬† Also, before diving into the topic at hand, I’d like to clarify something about my last Romeo post.¬† Yes, I am fine!¬† A few people have emailed me asking if I’m okay.¬† The intent of that post was to be funny and shed light on how ridiculous some situations I get myself into are.¬† I wasn’t in love with the guy nor attached to him by any stretch of the imagination.¬† Some things you cannot control and are just not meant to be, so you have no choice but to accept them.¬† So I’m good to go and moving on with my life, as I’ve learned to do countless times before.¬† It’s all good in the hood, but I do appreciate the concern.

Okay, topic at hand.¬† I have some more Words of Wisdom I’d like to lend to my readers.¬† Being that I work in acronyms constantly while working for the government, I figured why not provide an acronym (WOW) for my Words of Wisdom.¬† So, my WOW for the day is this:¬† some people complain about drama in their life and wonder why they are constantly surrounded by it.¬† But it’s really quite simple.¬† Life is all about choices.¬† If you surround yourself with drama, your life will¬†be filled with drama.¬† If you choose not to be surrounded by dramatic people, your life will be more stress free.¬† They say you learn more about yourself and life lessons as you hit your 30’s.¬† I guess at least I can say that for myself now.¬† If the people you surround yourself with add stress to your life, you must ask yourself…is it worth it to keep them around?¬† You also realize who your true friends are over time.¬† So, as I have learned to do recently, my recommendation is that if you are looking a more stressless, drama free life – take an inventory of who and what is worth your time and who and what¬†isn’t, then make changes based on this.¬† Going back to my last WOW, life is short, so cut your losses while you’re ahead.¬† It will simply make your life that much easier and more enjoyable.